He Is Not A Mind Reader: Tell Him What You Want

Another Well Placed Gem In Communicating:

Are you ready to see your relationship take off like a rocket? Just understand that being straight forward and concise will help your union in more ways than one. Men are creatures of the "less is more" theory it seems. As told to a very, very small group of us girls, by some men in my family among male friends, it appears that they don't think like we women do, and a lot of words or commands all at once sounds like so much clatter. Go figure! It's been suggested that, for instance, if you and your man aren't good at sharing what's on your mind, then start small; when you want your man to respond a certain way to whatever you want him to do. Keep your desires confined to one topic, and only make one request at a time. Do not attack them with run on requests or demands. This way you learn how to fashion your requests and what response you get from asking in a certain manner and or what is the proper timing that you should ask them to do something.

Yes ladies, it's all quite involved you see. We were told that the emotion we put behind certain requests could frighten them, and they may just freeze up and not know which way to respond. You know, like a deer caught in the headlights of your car, as it were. Oh please, girl, just listen to the rest of what these guys said, as they laughed their heads off and slapped each other five! Maybe then, after reading this, you could imagine how we ladies were looking at them and each other.

Now they started by saying that because they are in love with their partner, they usually don't want to respond to our emotional or physical out bursts because they don't know why we are upset in the first place, and that they don't want to say something that will only make matters worse, so they won't say anything at all or maybe even just walk away. We already know that that really gets our goat, girls! It's suggested that we try this, practice making short, straight-to-the-point statements or requests. This way they can easily absorb and decipher what we are asking them to do, and that they won't have to think so hard about our request. I've been told that we usually start to discuss thing with them, for instance, when they are watching the game, working on a project or in their home office completing an assignment. They feel that it's all so confusing, because we talk when their attention is divided.

Be Gentle With Him:

It's not that they are stupid ladies, it's just that they don't seem to respond effectively to too many requests, all at once from us. For instance, if you like flowers, don't say, "you never buy me any romantic things like Joseph does for Karen" maybe try something like, "I really love Tulips. Have I ever told you that before?" Instantly, they said, he will hear that unspoken request that you'd like to receive flowers from him, instead of a (crazy flailing arm inflatable tube man) guilt fest, and he won't need to guess at it. Now there's his "ah ha" moment.

Let's say that you spend a nice chunk of your allowance on a gift for him, and he doesn't use it or, even seem to appreciate the fact that you thought enough to by it for him. Maybe you shouldn't say something like, "I'm not buying you anything else, because you don't appreciate it, and you didn't even say thank you, like you really meant it!" maybe try this, "what type sweaters do you like to wear? You have so many that it's hard for me to figure out your favorite style. I saw something in "The Man's Shop" that I thought would really look good on you." This way you get some sort of dialogue going, before you purchase something that he doesn't like, to find out just what his style is and perhaps the next time, you can surprise him from that point. No harm, no foul...no fuss, no muss.

When It Is All Said And Done:

They say that communication is, key and through it, will make a clear pathway to a lifelong pattern of connecting with one another through spirit, emotion and definitely physically. As we practice this method, conversations become much lighter, breezier and we laugh together more frequently. We could eventually, even almost seem to finish each others statement after awhile. This connection will speak volumes between you two, instead of with them and someone else. I don't understand why it's that way between us sexes that men don't feel, think or hear conversations in the same manner that we do.

But, it is what it is, true or not, I'm sharing it with you, the way it was shared with me, and others. However, it was put to us that, if we try this straightforward technique, it will work better than any, of our, emotional plea's. You don't need any help from some other woman on how to communicate with your man, right. I bet you do just fine on your own. Now, we're told, it gets even better from there. This is just a little chat between us girls, on what was delivered to me, on our behalf, straight from some horse's mouth so-to-speak! Yeeeha ladies!

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